Some people find it easy to fall in love, others not so much. We tend to fall in love with people who meet a certain criteria in our mind.
This subconscious criterion is based on our past experiences, relationship with our parents or events that have happened in our lives. Based on each individual’s subconscious criterion, the reasons vary from person to person on why it’s so hard to fall in love.
Loving a person can be extremely difficult — here’s why…part 2:
Superficiality and shallowness
Some people are incredibly shallow, and it doesn’t help to know that a lot of people care about appearances when looking for a partner. Hence, it can make a person proceed with extreme caution.
Walking out is easier
A relationship requires a lot of time and effort. Some people aren’t necessarily willing to put in the effort and would rather break it off. With this being said, for some people, it’s easy to walk out because they know they have other options.
Process of recovery
After falling in love, you have to pick up the pieces from the heartbreak. We become guarded because our feelings have been hurt in the past.
We’d rather not leap into things because we know very well how helpless and awful heartbreak can feel. Giving another person the power to put you through the same pain is never easy.
Having high standards
As we grow older, we add more things to our list of what we look for. We understand what we want in personality qualities, physical attraction, values, interests, etc. This makes finding a partner tricky because each person has a certain score for his or herself to determine his or her own worth.
When we meet someone, we tend to point out the negative aspects we see and focus on those. It’s definitely good to maintain high standards because you want to be with someone who matches your worth, but sometimes, standards can become unattainable.
This will only result in constant disappointment.
